Liberated in Sex, Pleasure, Love, and Life.
Liberated is a 1:1 coaching program for high achieving, sensitive women and vulva owners who want to get out of your head, let go of shame, and have the intimacy and connection you want to be having so you don’t keep pushing your partner away– without needing to spend yet more time in therapy or perform bedroom gymnastics (unless you really want to)– by learning how to feel safe in your body and find your sexual voice.
We can work together for 3 months, 6 months, or 9 months.
Ready to start saying more, "OMG YES" (and actually mean it) instead of "No" and shutting it down?
Where you are now
If you’re on this page, you’re not looking for generic sex advice anymore, you’re ready to do the deep and transformational work.
You’ve done the work in therapy, coaching, or personal development already, you’ve immersed yourself in books and workshops, and while it’s been super helpful, you’ve hit a wall.
You want to form a deeper and more loving relationship with your body.
You want to stop trying to go into your upper chakras, you want to descend down into your pelvic bowl.
You are highly driven and motivated in the rest of your life, and you are ready to step up as a leader in your love life too.
You feel like sex, intimacy, eroticism, sensuality, the whole lot is the, “final frontier”, and you are now ready to commit to this work for yourself and get 1:1 personalised guidance.
Sex, intimacy, pleasure, relationships, these are probably all things that has been one of your biggest– hmmm shall we say, “Growth edges”, of your life?
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The thought, “Let’s just get this over with so I can go to sleep”, could describe your love life and you know that there is so much more you could be having.
For far too long, sex, love, and intimacy has felt like going through the motions rather than what you really want.
You feel frustrated that you keep pushing your partner away because sex just doesn’t feel good, but you know that deep down you are a highly sensual and erotic person, you need help accessing her/them.
You’ve done the Googling of, “How to spice it up in bed”, you’ve tried buying fluffy handcuffs, you’ve tried a tantra workshop, now you are ready to do the deeper work of a total sex, life, and relationship reset.
You’ve spent too long over giving to everybody else in your life (and spent far too much time staring at the ceiling, if you know what I mean), and now you’re ready to have it all– and keep your relationship intact too.
In the words of Chris, “It’s that line between wanting to advocate for my needs and also not wanting sex to become a chore or ordeal for my partner. I feel in this awkward limbo of feeling like a burden and wanting my pleasure.”
What you might initially look for support with:
- Low libido
- Difficulty having an orgasm
- Feeling numb “down there” and not being able to feel any pleasure
- Painful sex, vulvar or vaginal pain
- Having “duty sex” to keep your partner happy but it feels hollow and is satisfying neither of you
- Trouble communicating what you want in bed
- Still feeling the impact of religious sexual shame and/or purity culture
Now you know that you want to go deeper in integrating your mind, body, heart, soul, and sex.
You Could Be...
- Married or in a long term relationship: where you feel like you have been overcompromising for so long that you want to feel like yourself again.
- In between relationships: you keep having hookups that leave you feeling dissatisfied.
- Heterosexual, queer, bi, pan, or just curious.
- From the Church, a conservative background, or from a high demand group (ok let’s just call a cult a cult, ok?) Like me, you’ve deconstructed your faith and now you’re so ready to release all that shaming purity culture messaging from your body.
- Exploring non-monogamy, play parties, tantra, and sex-positive spaces and you want to have more confidence in asking for what you want.
- Working either in a helping, a service-based profession or in corporate (because you worked your arse off to get good grades) and you hold it all together for everybody else.
Most importantly, this is when you will know coaching is right for you:
- You keep finding yourself stuck in your head during intimacy.
- You’re fed up of faking it or trying to act like a porn star and you want to be able to confidently communicate what you really want.
- You’re tired of feeling numb “down there” and want to have the rippling sexual pleasure you see other women having *and feel frustrated about it.)
- You keep repeating the same patterns in your dating life of attracting arseholes or just people who are the wrong fit, and you want to do it differently.
- You feel incredible shame around your body and sexuality and want to break free from it.
- You keep feeling resentful and frustrated in your relationship or marriage.
- You feel like you and your partner keep going through the same patterns in intimacy and life and you want to shift it.
- You struggle to voice your needs in bed, in your relationship, and the rest of your life too, and you’re ready to change it.
- You feel unworthy not just of the love and relationship you want, but living the life you want too.
Let's do the deep work together
You know that when you do the deeper work of healing your sexuality, it will ripple out into the rest of your life too.
You’re no stranger to brave journeys, and now you’re ready to take the next one.
Here are interviews with 2 former clients
Justine Dean and Shae Court
Who you are
I often say that the women and vulva havers that I work best with are usually one or more of the following categories:
Recovering perfectionists, overachievers, and people pleasers
Neurospicy and weird
Ex-vangelical, ex-fundie, or from a conservative background, where you know the impact still lives in your body.
Do I happen to tick all those boxes too? I think you’ve probably figured that out for yourself!
That means you are somebody sensitive and heart-centred, keep taking on the role of, “rescuer/hero” in the drama triangle.
You often feel like you live in your head and overthink everything.
You are brilliant at intellectualising everything and are probably highly intelligent, but you struggle metabolize and integrate what you know.
You know you should be actually putting your needs first, but the idea of actually doing it breaks you out in a cold sweat.
You may have a relationship history that could be serialised into a podcast series, or you and your partner have hit a deep rut and you need a way out.
You’ve probably also been told:
“You’re too much/too sensitive/too loud/too bossy/too quiet/too smart/too slow”.
Or in the words of Georgia, “Am I going to be that woman that is called, “High Maintenance”? What even is the difference between that versus advocating for myself and being confident?”
Maybe you came from a family where nothing you did was good enough and you know this is a wound that still affects you today.
You may have dabbled in spirituality, and you would describe your life as a spiritual journey– but you know the next step is being in your body.
Or maybe you’ve tried a few tantra workshops but felt turned off by the noisy out breaths and calling everything Sanskrit. (Don’t worry, while I teach exercises from tantra, we won’t be doing anything of that.)
Most importantly, for you to get the most out of us working together, you need to be somebody with self awareness and a growth mindset.
These are the kinds of people who get the most of out working with me
- You’ve done therapy, coaching, or personal development before so you have self awareness.
- You’ve got a growth mindset and you value your own personal development.
- You tend to grasp ideas quickly and adore learning. You feel just as at home with text books and courses as you do with poetry.
- You are able to hold multiple truths at once and know that life is not binary.
- You are ready to walk your talk of putting your needs first
- You’re totally on board with feminism, empowerment, queer rights, trans rights, Black Lives Matter, etc but you often feel like a bad feminist– either because it just moves so fast or you just don’t agree with everything.
- You’re somebody who believes in living their values, not just putting them on your vision board.
Who I am
Hi, I’m Lucy.
I’m a sexologist and sex coach for women and vulva havers, writer, and host of The Naked and Unashamed Life Podcast.
My special sauce is helping you get out of your head and into your body, de-shame your sexuality, and actually enjoy the intimacy you’re having.
Get my full professional bio here.
After I got my sex coaching certification, I took further trainings in counselling, Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity, and somatics.
I am regularly quoted in the media and press for my sexpertise and in 2023, I was nominated as a finalist for the Sexual Freedom Awards as Somatic Sexologist of the year.
I am also the resident sex coach for UK-based contraception platform, The Lowdown and I am so proud to be part of their organization.
I know intimately what it’s like to feel sexual shame, to feel completely shut off from my body, and freeze up when asking for what I want.
I grew up in 00s northwest London in a Church of England family.
My Dad was a Lay Reader and my Grandpa was a vicar. As a teen I was heavily influenced by Evangelicalism and purity culture.
When my health broke down at 14, I had to go on a very long healing journey to build up not just my body, but my relationship with my body, my sexuality, and spirit.
I am a former gifted kid, recovering overachiever and perfectionist, neurodivergent with an ADHD diagnosis, and a body that regularly acts up on me.
That said, this is not my whole identity because primarily, I am Lucy.
After I left my Faith, I first found a home in tantra and sacred sexuality, and then I transitioned to sexology.
Like so many people, I try to straddle the worlds of science and academia with the world of wellness, spirituality, and woo. I proudly like to have one foot in each camp.
Here's some media I've been in
You’re definitely in the right place. This work is deeply transformational, are you ready to start?
What you get/potential Outcomes
Yes, the primary focus will be your intimate life AND this work will end up rippling out to every part of your life too.
This is much less checking a shopping list of, “5 ways to have an orgasm” or, “How to give a great blowjob”, or, “How to spice it up in bed”.
Think of it as a re-wiring how you think about yourself, feel about yourself, feel IN yourself, talk to yourself, and talk about yourself.
AKA a total sex, love, and life reset.
We start by helping you feel safer in your body again.
My aim is that this work will help you feel whole, blossom, and thrive in sex, relationships and your whole life.
Mind. Body. Soul. Sex. Love. Life.
Here is what you could experience from us working together:
- Saying, “yes”, to you. All of you. No more hiding or shame.
- Be able to ask for what you really want in bed without worrying you will offend your partner– whether it’s to have a looong oral session, a longer makeout session, to try out restraints, or just to be held more.
- Purity Culture recovery— releasing shame, healing your sex/spirit divide, and enjoying sex with a full bodied YES!
- More easily communicate what you want and need in your relationship, in dating or hooking up. Less resentment and more owning what you need and finding how to hear each other.
- Feeling safe to embrace both your slutty side AND your heart centred and soulful side too.
- Rewiring how you talk to yourself so that you start being your own best friend and soft place to land.
- Feeling safe with yourself and in your body, be seen for who you really are in your relationship without pretending anymore.
- Finding pleasure when you have vulvar or vaginal pain. We’re not just aiming for, “pain-free”, we’re aiming more for, “bodacious and delicious!”
- Feel safe to take new risks– in bed and in your life too. Whether it’s finally telling them to go much slower, going to get a cast of your boobs done to celebrate them, or finally trying out a BDSM party and just watching because you can do that too. (All of these are real things my clients have done.)
- Finally feel able to put the past to bed, per se, on that awful ex and all the shit that went on in that relationship.
- Feel more confident to find dates that match your values and feel worthy of them.
- Move out of the cycles of codependence in your relationship because you no longer base your wellbeing or sense of self on your partner.
- Feel not just deserving of pleasure, but bloody well entitled to it too.
Here’s what some people have said about my work:
“Your work is acceptance, normalizing, and welcoming.”
“Unlearning, de-stigmatizing, creating space to bust myths.”
“It’s unpicking the lies your brain tells you.”
“You give people permission to do things and feel things”
“You help untie the masking that mummifies us”
This work is not right for you (yet) if…
- You’re looking for generic sex advice and any old sex coach. This work is for a specific person at a specific point in your life and it’s not for everyone.
- You’re looking for intense therapy. While this work is highly therapeutic and healing, it is not a substitute for psychotherapy.
- You are in the middle of a mental health crisis or have untreated PTSD, and do not have other therapeutic support.
- You cannot make the commitment of time, energy, and money to put to this process.
- The idea of spirituality still flashes major alarm bells for you– especially for folk with religious trauma or from purity culture. I totally support that, and my work may not be the right fit for you. We can discuss it on a call together.
- You’re looking for me to rescue you and completely change your life.
- The phrase, “Radical Self Responsibility” turns you off
- You want me to be the perfectly presented professional with my clipboard. Ain’t going to happen! I swear a lot and all my emails and content has typos.
- You are a fan of Elon Musk and Joe Rogan, and have found yourself thinking that Jordan Peterson makes some really good points.
The Nitty Gritty:
What's involved in our work together
This is a coaching program where I will be working with you alone, not with you as a couple.
However, if you are in a relationship or marriage, I will offer you both a bonus call where we can talk together so your boo feels included in the process.
We meet twice a month for 75 minutes.
Sessions will include a mix of talking and processing, meditations and guided exercises, looking at resources, and somatic movement. In between sessions I give you homework and exercises to explore.
The first session is 90 minutes for us to set intentions and lay the groundwork together.
In our work together, we will cover these 9 themes. We might cover a bit of each, or go hard on one. It’s completely bespoke to you and your needs.
These are the pillars we cover:
Boundaries
Pleasure
Your Body
Sexual Energy
Your Story
Your Vulva
Taboo and Fantasy
Communication
Relationship
What our sessions could include
- Talking
- Meditation
- Pelvic exercises and movements
- Dancing or intuitive movement
- Neurosensory and somatic exercises
- Slideshows or looking at websites
- Body shaking
- Looking at our vulvas (this is with the camera off for privacy)
- Worksheets and PDFs
What You Get in Liberated
Personalized Coaching
Expert body first, trauma informed guidance tailored to your unique desires and goals, based on somatics and sexology.
Bespoke Exercises and Tools
Practical and actionable exercises tailored to your needs to enhance your pleasure potential from neo-tantra, sexology, and somatics.
Resources to Enhance Your Learning
You get access to workbooks, PDFs, links, videos, and audios to enhance your growth.
Support between the sessions
You get WhatsApp and email support between your sessions.
Confidential and Judgment Free
Everything that happens in sessions is completely confidential and without judgment. You can show up as your full self.
A Brave Space
You get a space for you to be brave and held, to find safety inside yourself so you can deeply trust yourself and your boundaries.
Let's Liberate your sexuality, sensuality, and your life
Your Investment
Bronze Package:
3 months
€2.160
One Time Payment
Or €800 per month
3x monthly payments
Silver Package:
6 months
€4.000
One Time Payment
Or €750 per month
6x monthly payments
Gold Package:
9 months
€5.700
One Time Payment
Or €700 per month
9x monthly payments
Payments are in Euros and through a secure server where you pay with your card of choice. It will automatically convert whatever currency you pay in.
Book your call now!
Ready to explore if we’re the right fit for each other? Click the button below to apply for your free discovery call. If I don’t think we are the right fit, I’ll give you recommendations for other practitioners or services.
How it works:
- You fill out the application form in the button below for a free discovery call. If I think I can help you, I send you the link to book our call. If not, I will send you resources or recommendations of other practitioners.
- We have a free discovery call to explore what working together would look like. I give you a week to make your decision so it feels like a full, “Yes” and you can make it from a grounded place.
- When you’ve decided, I send the payment links, client contract, post session aftercare, an in-depth sexual history form. This form is when the process really begins.
- We have our first introduction session, for 90 minutes, where we plan our path together and we create a blueprint for you.
- We meet twice a month for 75 minutes. Sessions will include a mix of talking and processing, meditations and guided exercises, looking at resources, and somatic movement. In between sessions I give you homework and exercises to explore.
- We have an optional bonus call with your partner/s to explore what has been coming up for you and any questions they might have.
- When we finish, we have a celebration!
Your Questions Answered
Not really, this is all about YOU and your sexuality. Our sessions will be you alone, with an optional bonus session with you and your partner at the end so they feel included. I ask that you tell your partner you are working with me, and if you want, you can share what’s come up for you in sessions or your homework.
Absolutely! This work can complement therapy or counselling, as long as you keep your therapist or mental health practitioner informed about our work. In fact, people who have had or are currently having therapy are the best fit for this work because you will need to have self awareness.
However, if you are in the middle of a mental health crisis or a flare up of PTSD, this work may not be right for you until you are more stable
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Absolutely! I use inclusive language and aim to make my spaces as safe as possible for queer folk. I embrace all different love, attraction, and relationship styles. That said, this program is for women and nonbinary vulva havers who lean more to the Femme spectrum. If you are more Masc or are a trans man, my work might not be the right fit for your needs, but we can have a free call to explore if the chemistry is right.
The majority of our sessions will be fully clothed, with the option of having a session where we look at our vulvas. This will be something that you will decide and it is invitation only. Our cameras will be switched off for this.
A final word on payment and refunds
I really hope that you will get what you want and need out of these sessions, and I am confident in my capabilities to help you. That said, I cannot promise or guarantee what your outcomes will be because every person’s needs are unique. .
If you have paid in full, I do not offer a refund unless we have both decided to stop working together
For people who cannot pay in full, I offer a monthly payment plan, which I undertake at my own financial risk.
That said, life happens, and if you are in severe financial difficulty like you cannot pay your bills, please for goddesses sake talk to me and we can work something out.
When you commit to working together, you are committing to paying for the full amount of time together as agreed.
This is to honour your commitment and my time and energy. If you cannot make your sessions, I offer you the choice to reschedule or to transfer the credit to another product or service I offer.
Thank you for valuing this work.
Ta x
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