What I Honestly Think About Crystal Sex Toys and Yoni Eggs (It May Not Be What You Thought)

What I Honestly Think About Crystal Sex Toys and Yoni Eggs (It May Not Be What You Thought)

I get a lot of questions about crystal sex toys, yoni eggs, and jade eggs. They are becoming more mainstream as many pleasure products are, with many women and vulva owners wondering whether to try them.

In this post I will share my honest professional opinion as a sexologist, and why I actually have mixed views on them. I refer to both crystal wands and yoni eggs, and will sometimes use the term, “crystal products” as an umbrella term.

What are Crystal Sex Toys, Yoni Eggs and Jade Eggs?

Crystal wands are pretty much what they are described as. They are often phallic shaped, but also come in other shapes, made of crystal, designed to be used inside a vagina. You can also buy crystal butt plugs and anal toys that are designed to be inserted into the anus.

Yoni Eggs are crystals cut and polished into an egg shape that are designed to be inserted into the vagina- “yoni” is the sanskrit term for the vagin, vulva, and womb area. They often have drilled holes so you can insert a string to easier pull them out and do exercises with. The most common and well known form of Yoni Egg is a Jade Egg- an egg made of Jade.

What I Like About Crystal Wands and Yoni Eggs

1. They can be a tool for sexual healing and liberation

Crystal wands and yoni eggs can be- and have been for many women and people with vulvas I know- incredibly healing. The crystals enabled them to release a lot of stuck emotions, sensitize the inside of their vaginas so they could feel more pleasure, have more powerful orgasms, reframe their relationship with their vulva, vagina, and wombspace, and more, and that is awesome!

The crystals were a tool of liberation for them, a way of connecting to their bodies on their own terms and reframing their pleasure and orgasms as sacred. Who am I to dismiss that? Especially if you have a history of sexual trauma, birth trauma, come from a patriarchal and repressive culture where female sexuality is demonized (especially Faith communities), or a mixture of all of these. And if you are a Person Of Colour where you also have to deal with racialized stereotypes and cultural expectations on top of that.

If a crystal wand or a yoni egg was a vehicle through which you experienced sexual healing and liberation, then all power to you, sister. I dislike the snobbish and dismissive attitude of many medical, therapeutic, or even sex-positive professionals who dismiss it all as woo woo nonsense, because in my view, if it worked, it worked.

I have personally experienced a lot of benefit from alternative and spiritual healing modalities that cannot be logically explained. 

2. The benefits can outweigh the physical health risks

There are far worse things to be sticking into your body than crystals- that have been sold specifically for genital use. For many people, the therapeutic and healing benefits outweigh the potential physical health risks.

3. Because fuck the patriarchy

Women’s health has long been under researched, under funded, and dismissed. We live in a patriarchal system, and western medicine- while it has many good things- has also failed women on so many counts. From pelvic pain, to endometriosis, to vulvar pain, menopause, hormonal birth control with horrible side effects that when tested on men who experienced the same side effects was stopped, birth trauma, post-natal care, the list goes on and on. Women and female bodies carry the scars- both physical and mental- of centuries of medical abuse, gaslighting, and misunderstanding.

If using a crystal wand or jade egg helped you to reclaim agency over your own body, that you keep doing it. 

What I don’t like about them:

1. Crystals are porous and harbour bacteria.

No matter how much they have had sealant put on them, no matter how much you clean them, they store bacteria that can lead to infections or other vaginal unpleasantness. 

2. Using crystal products is really not good for the environment

Crystals are not environmentally sustainable as they are a finite resource. Because crystals are in high demand due to spiritual practices becoming more mainstream, the ethics of how crystals are mined and sourced is questionable. 

3. False advertising and misinformation

Many practitioners and businesses that promote and sell crystal products tend to make wildly over-exaggerated claims and give non-evidence-based content as fact, I cannot support that, especially in 2021 and how dangerous misinformation is. From claims that this yoni egg or crystal wand can heal your trauma, balance your hormones, balance your “feminine energy”, experience enlightenment, have cosmic orgasms, heal cancer, and other claims that are misleading.

While a crystal product can be a vehicle through which you experience healing or is a tool that has helped you heal- it is not the crystal alone that did it, it was in conjunction with visualization, breathwork, meditation, being in community, regular practice, positive reframing of pleasure and sexuality, and working with your body.

This is what most sexuality professionals facilitate anyway without using crystals! Crystal wands and yoni eggs are often sold and advertised as a cure-all or holy grail (just like essential oils, CBD, the latest diet trend, Kangen Water filters, or celery juice is) and it’s not realistic or fair to vulnerable people seeking help. 

4. They can be a form of spiritual bypassing

Crystals are often used because they are seen as sacred and spiritual. People use them as a healing practice, a way to reframe their sexuality as something sacred. While I am absolutely an advocate for that, why is a crystal only allowed to be sacred? Why not a glass wand or steel wand that is body safe? Or why not just a regular vibrator? A dildo you bought from Ann Summers? A clit vibe you bought from a seedy looking sex shop with frosted windows and blow up dolls in the window? Or an electro-stim device on your nipples? A butt plug in the shape of a garden gnome?

I believe these can ALL be sacred because it is the meaning you put on them! In true tantric philosophy, the profane is sacred and the sacred is profane.

Crystal products often appeal to women who feel put off by sex toys and sex shops because of the connotation that they are somehow “dirty” and taboo. It can be a subtle form of spiritual bypassing and snobbery whereby the only “ok”, “conscious”, or “sacred” way to experience your sexuality is with crystals in a certain setting. 

Another interesting fact is that even though advocates of jade eggs say they were used by concubines in ancient Chinese courts, there is no known historical evidence that they were. Jade eggs are yet another way in which eastern practices are fetishized and altered for western audiences, because if you use the phrase, “ancient practice”, people will buy it.

(Google the term, “orientalism”, and then see if your favourite Jade Egg and sacred sexuality teachers who teach Taoist practices are also speaking out against hate crimes against the Asian community. While you’re at it, do the same for your favourite yoga teachers and if they’re also talking about the covid crisis in India or the rise of nationalism in the BJP that is discriminating against Muslims.)

5. Little training on how to use them safely or effectively

Many practitioners and businesses that promote or sell crystal products- especially yoni eggs- do not thoroughly teach how to use them safely or list the contraindications. (Not all, I must add, but many.) Many women and vulva owners will buy a yoni egg because they believe it will be the magic pill that helps them have more orgasms or heal their pelvic pain, but get no instruction, and many end up with injuries. 

So, should you try a crystal sex toy or yoni egg?

In summary, I am not against using crystal products per se, but I am wary and do not personally recommend them.

At the same time, I celebrate you if they were your tool to sexual liberation and empowerment, and were the vehicle through which you experienced your full pleasure potential.

I have personally tried yoni eggs, and while I recognized the benefits, I experienced more from specific exercises, visualizations, and positive reframing. I have experienced blissful and ecstatic states from using a plain old glass wand. from genital massage, or from being in a specific workshop or training setting. I acknowledge that this is a privilege, and for many people, using a crystal product was more accessible to them.

If you are curious about trying a crystal wand or yoni egg, please only buy from a trusted seller and also learn how to use them properly. Ideally, take a jade egg course so you can get the full benefit. You will need to pay a higher price to get the quality you will need, and crystal wands cost upwards of £100.

It could be money well spent, but think about if you are committed to this investment or if it will just lie unused in your drawer. 

My own recommendation would be, why not charge up a glass wand with the crystals you already have? Set your intentions, set them out under moonlight, and create your own magickal ritual with it. 

Sex and pleasure are magical and sacred, so celebrate that!

What has been your experience with crystal wands or yoni eggs? How do you bring magic and spirituality to your sexuality? Tell me in the comments below.

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