This conversation is SO on point right now!
A few weeks back I did a podcast interview with my friend, Sally Garozzo-Stokes- a fellow Brightonian in the wellness and entrepreneur space- on her podcast, The Menopause Mindset, which was two pronged:
Deconstructing what women and those socialized as women are taught about sex AND deconstructing harmful and predatory practices in the coaching and business industry.
Because I’ve seen and heard too much, and it breaks my heart.
This is a two-pronged conversation. We talk about sex AND selling.
Let’s address the sex first.
When we reach our midlife years our libido can lower the reasons are multifactorial but some are deeper than we might be looking.
OUR LOW LIBIDO IS NOT JUST OUR HORMONES
Our inability to open up to great sex and self pleasure are usually nothing to do with anything being at fault with you (or your hormones). It’s part of a larger systemic culture that pokes at our trauma causing us to feel shameful and guilt ridden about our sexuality.
What we cover:
- What constitutes good sex?
- The difference between excited pleasure and relaxed pleasure.
- How the infiltration of the ‘growth mindset’ might be affecting our sex lives.
- The benefits of exploring your own eros within and without a relationship, especially to heal sexual trauma
- How purity culture fucks up our sexuality
- Pleasure and guilt
- Stress as a safe feeling and relaxation as a challenging feeling
- Vulva shame IS trauma
- Not knowing what you want in bed
- Healing sexuality as a form of soul retrieval
THEN….
- The lineage of personal development (white protestantism and evangelism)
- Being asked to over extract our internal resources by bosses or coaches
- The dangers of business coaching without any trauma knowledge
- Waking up to manipulative practices designed to sell products/services
LET’S STAY IN TOUCH
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