Frequently Asked Questions About Working With Me

“Will my partner/husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend be involved?”

In all of my 1:1 work and group programs, no. This is all about YOU and your sexuality! If we’re working together 1:1, our sessions will be you alone, with an optional bonus session with you and your partner at the end so they feel included. I ask that you tell your partner you are working with me, and if you want, you can share what’s come up for you in sessions or your homework. 

“Do I need to be in a relationship or married to work with you?”

Absolutely not! This work is for you WHATEVER your relationship status– whether you’re single, dating, “it’s complicated”, divorced, polyam, long term relationship, or married. This is because it’s all about you and your sexuality. I’ve worked with clients where they wanted to do the inner work before getting into another relationship so that they wouldn’t keep repeating the same unhealthy patterns that suffocated them in their last ones.

“Will this be completely confidential?”

My lips are sealed, with the exception if I need to ask a colleague or supervisor for some advice, or in the very rarest of circumstances, I feel that you or somebody else is at immediate risk of harm. (The latter has never happened to me yet.)

I keep detailed notes of our work in a password protected file on my laptop.

Any testimonials or rave reviews are always with your full and informed consent.

“I’m queer and absolutely not cis-het, is this right for me?”

Absolutely! I use inclusive language and aim to make my spaces as safe as possible for queer folk. I embrace all different love, attraction, and relationship styles. That said, my 1:1 and group programs are for women and nonbinary vulva havers who lean more to the Femme spectrum. If you are more Masc or are a trans man, my work might not be the right fit for your needs, but we can have a free call to explore if the chemistry is right.

“Is your work tantra?”

I use many exercises and ideas from neo-tantra, taoism, and modern sacred sexuality because I know that the exercises in themselves are incredibly powerful in helping build your mind/body connection. However, my work is NOT tantra and I am not a tantra teacher– which in the west is basically a mashup of different modalities with a mandala on top– I am a sex coach. I do not use terms like, “Divine Feminine”, or anything from sanskrit.

“I’m currently also having therapy, is this right for me?”

Absolutely! This work can complement therapy or counselling, as long as you keep your therapist or mental health practitioner informed about our work. In fact, people who have had or are currently having therapy are the best fit for this work because you will need to have self awareness.

However, if you are in the middle of a mental health crisis or a flare up of PTSD, this work may not be right for you until you are more stable.

“How long will it take?”

We will spend 6 months together. Our sessions are 1 hour long every other week, with 4 added 1 hour long movement sessions too.

“I work during the day, do you offer evening sessions?”

I have some evening slots (European time) if you cannot do during daytime. I cannot offer anything past 8pm UK time/12pm LA time/3pm New York time because my brain turns to mush past then and I prioritize my health and wellbeing. However, if you’re based in Australia, New Zealand, or generally anywhere around Asia then it will work brilliantly for both of us!

“How do we meet?”

We meet on Zoom or another video calling platform– I’m currently exploring other platforms that offer more privacy than Zoom. I offer in person sessions rarely, depending on my travel arrangements. This means that it doesn’t matter where you or I are in the world, we can work together!

“Will I have to get nude in sessions?”

The majority of our sessions will be fully clothed, with the option of having a session where we look at our vulvas. This will be something that you will decide and it is invitation only. Our cameras will be switched off for this.

“I’m already a coach/therapist/practitioner, is this right for me?”

Oh my goddess yes! I have continued working with coaches and therapists while also working as a sex coach. Even if you’re a sex coach or sex therapist too! Because you know the value of doing your own work and I’ll bet you didn’t get into this job because you had a perfect life, free of trauma. (None of us did.) You doing this work could be a brilliant investment of your time, energy, and money to fully resource yourself for your client work.

“Do you offer payment plans?”

Absolutely! I offer payment plans for all my 1:1 and group programs. For standalone workshops or digital courses, it’s payment in full. For payment plans I add a very teensy amount (like, less than 10%) to cover these costs. That said, by offering a payment plan, I am taking a risk and trusting that you will honour it and complete payments. Because this is literally how I feed myself and pay my bills.

“Do you accept insurance?”

Unfortunately I don’t. Payment is privately, I am not eligible to accept health insurance.

“Money is really tight at the moment, do you offer discounted or sliding scale sessions?”

I get it, I really do. If money is an issue for you right now, I have a few more affordable ways to work with me:

1. I offer a few calls each week through UK contraception platform, The Lowdown which are lower cost.
2. I usually offer a couple of bursary places for every group program I run– depending on numbers and what I can afford.
3. I have lower cost digital courses that are under £200. Find them here.
4. My blog, podcast, and social media is full of free support and advice. I don’t gatekeep information or pretend I have any secrets.

I take on a very limited number of 1:1 clients because of my own capacity, so that I know I am giving the best support and expertise to my clients while ALSO tending to myself. I cannot afford to be a marytr to this work, which means I charge accordingly.

Please do not choose to work with me if it’s a choice between paying your bills, or if you need to take out a loan or credit card.

“I can’t wait! How do I start working with you?”

Fabulous! First, head to this page to get all the details of working together 1:1. Then fill out the application form at the bottom of the page, or at this link.

If I think I can help you, I send you the link to book our call. If not, I will send you resources or recommendations of other practitioners.

We have a free discovery call to explore what working together would look like. I give you a week to make your decision so it feels like a full, “Yes” and you can make it from a grounded place.

When you’ve decided, I send the payment links, client contract, post session aftercare, an in-depth sexual history form. This form is when the process really begins.

We have our first introduction session, where we plan our path together and we create a blueprint for you.

Let’s do the deep work together.

You know it’s time, and you’re done with putting it off.

Get all the details about working together 1:1 here.