Do you feel stuck in overthinking?⠀
Like you can’t let go?⠀
Like you’re freaking out about every single thing, especially sex?⠀
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There seems to be a high correlation between being an over achiever and a perfectionist, with also struggling to let go in bed and relate to your partner.⠀
I am a fully certified perfectionist (if such a certificate existed) and overachiever. At school I was the teacher’s pet who got straight A’s, and never put a foot wrong.
Overthinking is my superpower and downfall at the same time, but luckily I am also a pro at overcoming it.
Being a high achiever and perfectionist does have many benefits, but if you’re on this page, you’re also aware of how they make things more difficult.
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If you’re somebody who meticulously plans everything and aims to show up as your best self, having somebody tell you to, “let go” would be like me speaking to you in a different language.⠀
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“Huh? Let go of what? How?!!”⠀
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Here’s the first step.
Do it badly.
I love to tell this to my clients: let yourself be messy and imperfect.
In fact, why not deliberately do it badly?
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Do all the exercises I give you badly. Do terrible breathwork. Dance terribly. Move terribly. Self-pleasure terribly.
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Does that feel easier? Can you breathe now? ⠀
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This means you don’t need to know how to:⠀
- Give the perfect BJ or cunnilingus⠀
- Make all the right noises in the right places⠀
- Nail every sex position like a pro (there’s a reason why porn stars are professionals- they really are sexual athletes)⠀
- Have an orgasm on cue⠀
- Give the perfect striptease⠀
Or anything else⠀
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What are you beating yourself up about when it comes to sex?
Where are you holding yourself to an impossible standard?⠀
How can you let yourself be more of a gorgeously imperfect human being?
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Helping overthinking and high achieving womxn to release sexual shame, embrace pleasure, and have the kind of no holds barred sex and intimacy they really want is my gift.
Lucy Rowett, CSC – Pronouns: She/Her/Her