What? Resting for more libido?
Whenever I have sessions with women about their low libido, they follow a similar pattern. They want to know if there’s a medication or magical supplement libido booster that will be the secret key to getting their sex drive back. Their low libido is negatively impacting their relationship, and they feel at a crisis as to what to do about it.
While it’s frustrating for me as a sex coach, because I believe low libido is the tip of the iceberg, I don’t blame them. We live in a world that glorifies a quick fix, with our Instagram feeds full of conflicting advice on what we should and shouldn’t be doing.
The pharmaceutical world has been trying to find a libido booster, a pink viagra a medication that would be as commercially successful for women as viagra has been for men—for years, and while they’ve created a few, none have really shown to be very promising in terms of effectiveness.
The wellness industry is no different. You don’t need to look hard for companies and people promising to fix your libido either—from supplements, herbs, adaptogens, aphrodisiacs, nutrition, to vaginal steaming and other health treatments. Remember that the wellness industry is worth around $6.3 trillion, according to Global Wellness Institute.
How to increase libido in women?
While there are many changes you can make that I recommend all the time—like exploring your turn-ons, reviewing your medication, menopause support, understanding how your desire works, creating more safety in your body, debunking myths about sex, and desire more to name just a few—there’s one solution that not many women truly consider.
The best thing about it is that you don’t necessarily have to spend much—or any—money on it either!
It’s rest.
Lucy Rowett, CSC – Pronouns: She/Her/Her