What I hear when you say you want more satisfying sex and intimacy with your husband

Here’s what I hear, as a sexologist, when you SAY you want to have more satisfying sex and intimacy with your husband, from working with and speaking with many unsatisfied women and vulva havers.

(Bearing in mind I don’t know your unique situation and there are always lots of relational factors as well– let’s think of this as both/and.)

Your sexuality never felt like YOURS to begin with.

Thanks patriarchal, sex shaming conditioning!

Sex was always about how to get him off, how to look sexy, how to do all the wild things to make the boys like you. (Even if you’re not just attracted guys.)

You were never encouraged to say, “no“, and listen to what your, “no“, and, “yes“ actually are.

You have no idea what actually feels good to you.

You have spent so long looking after everybody else, trying to make everybody happy, spin all the plates, be, “low maintenence”, be superwoman, supermum, that you are sitting on a pile of resentment.

You are tired. So tired from trying to do it all with no help. The mental load is real.

Or the idea of asking for help and admitting you NEED help in the firtst place– no admitting you have NEEDS in the first place makes you want to vomit.

You have no connection with your own sexual energy and eroticism.

You have no idea how eros can pulse under your skin and between your fingertips.

So, sure, you CAN google great sex advice and more sex positions.

Go for it! Get juicy inspiration! Get turned on!

But if you’re like many women, you‘ve probably already tried that.

You can probably read a book or two as well.

Great! Read books! I have many I recomend!

But you know if you’re being honest with yourself that you need more support.

It’s time to make your sexuality and eros your priority, are you ready?

Let’s start with EmpowerEros sessions.

2 sessions over 1 month, with WhatsApp and email support in between.

Want to talk it through and ask questions? No problem, contact me and we can hop on a quick Zoom call.

Get all the info about EmpowerEros sessions here.

To your eros.

L x